Comments on: Things We Think But Do Not Say (Part 2) http://www.comingunmoored.com/2009/07/part-2/ At last I had mastered the low art of coming unmoored. -- Joe Androe Thu, 20 Oct 2011 00:22:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: “If I really told the truth…” | Coming Unmoored -- Life in a Tiny Floating Home http://www.comingunmoored.com/2009/07/part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1375 “If I really told the truth…” | Coming Unmoored -- Life in a Tiny Floating Home Mon, 20 Jul 2009 11:05:51 +0000 http://www.comingunmoored.com/?p=2481#comment-1375 [...] sounds like a couple of people may have gotten a little fired up about my recent series on Things We Thing But Do Not Say and been rather abruptly, uncomfortably honest with people around them to rather painful effect.  [...] [...] sounds like a couple of people may have gotten a little fired up about my recent series on Things We Thing But Do Not Say and been rather abruptly, uncomfortably honest with people around them to rather painful effect.  [...]

]]> By: Phil Huffstatler http://www.comingunmoored.com/2009/07/part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1331 Phil Huffstatler Tue, 14 Jul 2009 03:07:24 +0000 http://www.comingunmoored.com/?p=2481#comment-1331 Rough times are only that. It's how we handle those times that define us. I'm sure I've handled these times better, but then, that's life too. I've found, not for the first time, There's a basic problem with honesty. Very basic. That is, no one wants to hear it! I wrote today what I felt. Wow. It had an effect alright! I only hope, it's for the best. I still firmly believe that true honesty is best. I do. Phil in Texas (but not much longer....) Rough times are only that. It’s how we handle those times that define us. I’m sure I’ve handled these times better, but then, that’s life too. I’ve found, not for the first time, There’s a basic problem with honesty. Very basic. That is, no one wants to hear it! I wrote today what I felt. Wow. It had an effect alright! I only hope, it’s for the best. I still firmly believe that true honesty is best. I do.

Phil in Texas (but not much longer….)

]]> By: B. Somm http://www.comingunmoored.com/2009/07/part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1326 B. Somm Mon, 13 Jul 2009 15:19:22 +0000 http://www.comingunmoored.com/?p=2481#comment-1326 I've always been one to state what is on my mind and folks that know me, know that I am "opinionated"! I found your original blog post, as well as the one above, to be insightful. Even thought I tend to state what is on my mind, I also hold back since I tend to have issues with being "tactful". I'm usually not one to beat around the bush and if asked, I'll be as truthful as possible. As I've gotten older, I've learned to curb a lot of my comments, but I still have to constantly work on 'HOW' I state things, as I tend to come across as being rude, mad or just pissed off. Most of the time that is not the case, nor my intent, but I still end up offending people. Most people can't handle 'blunt, to the point' statements! Unfortunately in this PC controlled world it has caused me problems at work. I'm sorry, but I refuse to be "PC", as I feel that that is a big part of what is wrong with our current society. There is a time & place for everything and finding the balance between the two is what gives me trouble. I also get frustrated with the double standards in today's PC society. I always seem to come out on the short end of the boundary stick, so I tend to have my dad's attitude towards people, which is: "People are a hassle", so I tend to keep to myself...it's when I venture out that I get myself in trouble! I think the biggest problem I have is curbing my reactions to other folks' being "offended" when I tell it like it is. I have the bad habit of rolling my eyes a lot. It always seems like I'm expected to respect other people, but yet I don't get the same respect in return. I'll always be struggling with that balancing act! Anyway, I enjoy your blogs and really hope that you can get your inner conflicts squared away and find the happiness that you so richly deserve! B. :) I’ve always been one to state what is on my mind and folks that know me, know that I am “opinionated”! I found your original blog post, as well as the one above, to be insightful. Even thought I tend to state what is on my mind, I also hold back since I tend to have issues with being “tactful”.

I’m usually not one to beat around the bush and if asked, I’ll be as truthful as possible. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned to curb a lot of my comments, but I still have to constantly work on ‘HOW’ I state things, as I tend to come across as being rude, mad or just pissed off. Most of the time that is not the case, nor my intent, but I still end up offending people. Most people can’t handle ‘blunt, to the point’ statements!

Unfortunately in this PC controlled world it has caused me problems at work. I’m sorry, but I refuse to be “PC”, as I feel that that is a big part of what is wrong with our current society. There is a time & place for everything and finding the balance between the two is what gives me trouble.

I also get frustrated with the double standards in today’s PC society. I always seem to come out on the short end of the boundary stick, so I tend to have my dad’s attitude towards people, which is: “People are a hassle”, so I tend to keep to myself…it’s when I venture out that I get myself in trouble!

I think the biggest problem I have is curbing my reactions to other folks’ being “offended” when I tell it like it is. I have the bad habit of rolling my eyes a lot. It always seems like I’m expected to respect other people, but yet I don’t get the same respect in return. I’ll always be struggling with that balancing act!

Anyway, I enjoy your blogs and really hope that you can get your inner conflicts squared away and find the happiness that you so richly deserve!

B. :)

]]> By: Steph http://www.comingunmoored.com/2009/07/part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1325 Steph Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:33:59 +0000 http://www.comingunmoored.com/?p=2481#comment-1325 Hey, Phil. Yes, I changed my theme. Thanks for noticing. :) I'm sorry it sounds like you're going through some rough times. I hope you're able to figure out some answers. And, certainly, you're more than welcome to use the questions above as a tool. That's why I posted them. Steph Hey, Phil.

Yes, I changed my theme. Thanks for noticing. :)

I’m sorry it sounds like you’re going through some rough times. I hope you’re able to figure out some answers. And, certainly, you’re more than welcome to use the questions above as a tool. That’s why I posted them.

Steph

]]> By: Phil http://www.comingunmoored.com/2009/07/part-2/comment-page-1/#comment-1324 Phil Mon, 13 Jul 2009 13:14:24 +0000 http://www.comingunmoored.com/?p=2481#comment-1324 Um, some parallels here are fairly scary! I guess what that translates to, is that no matter what you think you're going through, others out there are pretty much doing the same thing, even though the names and places change. I too am smoked from my job, but there are things I really like about it, have a dead-end relationship quickly going in two very different directions, and am bored to tears with not doing much about it, except increased meds from my doctor, who is also a good friend, so I can maintain the status quo with the world at large. That really sucks too. Yes, I love run-on sentences with lots of pauses! :) It's my own writing style... If you don't mind, I'm going to post my response here and the italics questions from your post on my blog, as it's pretty darned relevant to my own circumstances. I leave any of your personal stuff comepletely out of it, and just discuss the italics bullet points... Thanks, Phil in Texas (for now) P.S. - Did you change your theme? Um, some parallels here are fairly scary! I guess what that translates to, is that no matter what you think you’re going through, others out there are pretty much doing the same thing, even though the names and places change. I too am smoked from my job, but there are things I really like about it, have a dead-end relationship quickly going in two very different directions, and am bored to tears with not doing much about it, except increased meds from my doctor, who is also a good friend, so I can maintain the status quo with the world at large. That really sucks too. Yes, I love run-on sentences with lots of pauses! :) It’s my own writing style…

If you don’t mind, I’m going to post my response here and the italics questions from your post on my blog, as it’s pretty darned relevant to my own circumstances. I leave any of your personal stuff comepletely out of it, and just discuss the italics bullet points…

Thanks,
Phil in Texas (for now)

P.S. – Did you change your theme?

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